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| Date: October 17, 2008 |
There Are Two Kinds of Fear and Only One Fear Paralyzes Us |
Fear is arguably the one thing that paralyzes people from doing most things in life. Fear can take control of a life and shortly after that life is spinning out of control. Many times, fear is the reason many people experience despair and defeat. This kind of fear is debilitating and prevents people from achieving growth and great things.
People who learn to overcome fear often describe their experiences as having overcome darkness or having their eyes opened for the first time. Fear prevents people from finding true happiness. Without fear, the possibilities of life are endless and satisfying. Overcoming fear creates a whole new outlook and attitude that most people want, but are afraid to face. Fear stops all things from moving forward.
Before tackling how to overcome fear, people need to understand that there are basically two kinds of fear people experience. The first kind of fear is the fear that conquers us. This fear makes us feel human, vulnerable and unwilling to take chances. It prevents growth and accomplishment.
The second kind of fear is actually a productive fear. It is the kind of fear that people experience before doing something new or exciting. This fear can enhance any experience, provide clarity and exhilaration and even provide a ìrushî or adrenaline for the body to be at its best for whatever is must endure. This kind of fear can be a powerful motivator.
The first step in dealing with the negative kind of fear is to face them. This is frightening and the fear of facing fear can be overwhelming. Every human being has it within them to find the strength to face fear.
Take some time to make a list that includes all of your fears. You want to make sure you write your list rather quickly so that you donít take the time to dwell on and nurture any one particular fear at a time. Every fear is a valid fear and should be included. If you fear being late for work, write it down. If you fear that you will get cancer, write it down. It doesnít matter how monumental or trivial you think a fear is, you should include it on your list.
Next, read each of your fears out loud while not passing judgment on how silly or irrational you think a fear might be. Acknowledge your fear, let it pass through your senses and then realize that nothing bad actually happens by thinking about and experiencing your fear.
Now you can look at your fears and identify which ones are the kinds of fears that keep you from moving forward and which ones are the ones that push you through your fear. By actually recognizing your fears, you should be able to realize that fear isnít always a negative emotion. Fear is natural and healthy. Fear can also show us where we need to grow.
If you have trouble labeling your fears, consider the fact that one kind of fear tends to result in feelings of panic and loss of control. The other kind of fear is one where you feel a push to move forward using your body and your mind. When you react to danger, it is a healthy fear. When you run screaming from a tiny spider in the shower, you donít have a healthy fear.
Taking the time to list and acknowledge fears is just the first step on the road to managing fears. It takes time, strength, courage and practice. Once anyone has got a good handle on dealing with fears though, the time and energy spent to get there is well worth it.
After you have acknowledged your years you must decide whether you want to overcome it or not. If you decide you want to overcome it you create a plan on how to deal with your fear. Hereís some strategies to help.
1. Get knowledge about the fear you are experiencing. There are others who have experienced the same thing. Examine what they did to break through. Create a plan of action after you receive the knowledge. Know what you want from the action: Set your goal up on the action you decide to do. You need to know the reason of doing it so that you have enough motivation to overcome the fear. If you have no strong enough reason, you will not follow through the action and failure will be unavoidable.
2 Understand the nature of fear: Fear will come if we are not certain what will happen. In order to reduce the severity of fear, we need to make the action as clear as we can. Also, we need to see through the whole process of our actions whether there is some risk on anything.
There are some people suggesting that for example if you are afraid of ghost in the closet, you must really go and take a look at the closet that there is no ghost inside. It is the same here. Fear is just created in our mind according to our natural instinct. Without fear our race may not have come this far.
In our modern time era, we may need to make full analysis of the situation to the extent that we feel more comfortable. This will help us to minimize the fear as we go along. Successful people are not the ones who do not have fear, but the one who know who to deal with it. You also can be successful if you understand its nature.
3 Change the focus: Do not focus on what you fear but instead focus on what you want. This is what most human has missed. Instead of thinking about what he wants, average human tends to focus on what he doesn't want. Train yourself on thinking about good things in your life.
4 Have a positive visualization: Know how to visualize will help you enable to dramatically reduce your fear. Regular visualization will also attract favorable situation and attributes into your life according to the law of attraction. There are also some attraction accelerator tools in the market. You may want to utilize in to help you get your result faster.
5 Have a feeling of gratitude: Feel gratitude on what has brought you here. Gratitude is one of the secrets on eliminating fear. Once you feel really grateful, you will not have fear. Make sure that you have the right focus when you have fear.
Everybody has fear. However, not many people know how to deal with it when they are in this intense situation. The five steps here will help anybody on minimizing fear and get closer to their success.
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